As a parent, you’ve likely experienced the struggle of sleepless nights with your 10-month-old. Whether it’s constant wake-ups or the need to be rocked to sleep, it can feel exhausting.
But here’s the good news: sleep training at this stage can help your baby learn to sleep independently, leading to more restful nights for both you and your little one.
By this time, your baby is mentally ready, and with the right approach, they can start building healthy sleep habits.
In this blog, we’ll cover everything you need to know about sleep training for your 10-month-old, from creating a perfect sleep environment to choosing the right sleep training method.
Let’s get started on the path to better sleep for your whole family!
What’s Normal for a 10-Month-Old’s Sleep?
At 10 months old, babies typically need 12 to 14 hours of sleep in total each day.
This includes about 10 to 12 hours of sleep at night and 2 to 3 hours of sleep during the day, usually split into two naps.
Many babies at this age can sleep for longer stretches at night, often 8 to 10 hours, but it’s still normal for them to wake up once or twice.
They may also be able to stay awake for longer periods between naps. Some babies might still need help falling asleep, while others are starting to sleep more independently.
It’s common for sleep patterns to vary, so some babies may need more or less sleep than others. Maintaining a consistent bedtime routine can help your baby develop good sleep habits.
What is Sleep Training for A 10-Month-Old?
Sleep training a 10-month-old involves helping your baby learn to fall asleep independently and sleep through the night.
At this age, babies are developing better sleep patterns, but they may still wake up frequently or struggle to settle down on their own.
Sleep training can help them learn how to self-soothe and establish a regular sleep routine.
This might involve setting a consistent bedtime, creating a calming pre-sleep routine, and making sure the sleep environment is safe and comfortable.
The goal is to teach your baby to sleep without needing your help each time they wake up during the night. It may take some time and consistency, but with patience, your baby can learn to sleep better on its own.
Why Sleep Training Matters
By this time, your baby is developmentally ready to sleep through the night. Sleep training will help both you and your baby:
- Improved Sleep Habits: Sleep training teaches your baby to self-soothe, reducing the chances of frequent wake-ups and ensuring better sleep quality for everyone.
- Healthier Attachment: A consistent bedtime routine and the ability to sleep alone contribute to emotional security and a stronger bond with you.
- Restful Nights for Parents: No more late-night feedings or constant rocking – once your baby learns to sleep independently, both parents can enjoy more restful nights.
- Physical Growth: Your baby is likely crawling, sitting, and even pulling up to stand. This mobility helps them feel secure enough to sleep independently.
- Cognitive Development: Understanding object permanence at this age may cause your baby to experience some separation anxiety, but this is also the right time to help them develop self-soothing skills.
- Emotional Growth: With increased social awareness, 10-month-olds benefit from the consistency of a bedtime routine that helps them feel safe and calm before sleep.
How to Sleep Train a 10-Month-Old?
A calm and comfortable sleep space is key to good sleep.
Here’s how to prepare:
- Use blackout curtains to block out any light. A white noise machine can help mask background noises.
- Keep the room at a comfortable temperature (68-72°F) for optimal sleep.
- Use a Sleep Sack, which provides warmth and safety without the risk of loose blankets, which could disturb your baby’s sleep.
A consistent bedtime routine signals to your baby that it’s time to wind down.
Some calming activities include:
- Bath time followed by soft pajamas
- Reading a book or singing a lullaby
- Gentle rocking or cuddling to calm them before placing them in their crib
Establish a bedtime that works best for your baby:
- Aim for a bedtime between 6:30 – 8:00 PM.
- Be consistent with bedtime timing to help set your baby’s internal clock and improve their ability to fall asleep on their own.
Sleep associations, like being rocked or fed to sleep, can disrupt long-term sleep patterns.
Here’s how to wean off these sleep props:
- If your baby is used to being rocked, slowly reduce the rocking time.
- Gradually reduce night feedings and help your baby learn to fall asleep without your intervention.
- By 10 months, your baby may be transitioning from three naps to two naps.
Some Tried and Tested Sleep Training Methods
Depending on your preference and how quickly you want results, there are several approaches to try.
1. Fading Method: Reduce the amount of interaction you have with your baby at bedtime. For example, instead of rocking, simply place your baby in the crib while awake, staying close but not intervening.
2. Pick-Up/Put-Down Method: Pick up your baby when it cries, soothe it briefly, and put it back in the crib once it is calm. Repeat this as necessary until your baby learns to self-soothe.
If you need faster results, these methods are effective but may involve more crying:
3. Ferber Method: Gradually increase the intervals between comforting visits (e.g., 3 minutes, 5 minutes, 10 minutes). This allows your baby to learn self-soothing while still receiving reassurance from you.
4. Cry-It-Out: Put your baby to bed awake and allow them to cry until they fall asleep. Before trying this method, it’s important to ensure your baby is safe, comfortable, and not hungry. Use a video monitor to check in if necessary.
What to Do if Sleep Training Isn’t Working
1. Check the Sleep Environment
- Darkness: Use blackout curtains to keep the room dark, as light can disrupt sleep.
- Noise: Use a white noise machine to block out distractions.
- Temperature: Keep the room between 68-72°F (20-22°C) for optimal sleep.
- Safety: Ensure the crib is clear of any hazards like toys or loose blankets.
2. Adjust Sleep Schedule
- Wake Windows: Ensure your baby has 2.5-3.5 hours of wake time between naps and bedtime.
- Bedtime: Aim for a consistent bedtime between 6:30 PM – 8:00 PM to avoid overtiredness.
- Naps: Transition to two naps per day and avoid naps too close to bedtime.
3. Seek Professional Help
- Personalized Advice: A pediatric sleep consultant can help identify specific issues and suggest tailored strategies.
- Health Concerns: Ensure there are no underlying medical conditions affecting sleep.
- Support: A professional can offer guidance and reassurance to keep you consistent and on track.
Final Thoughts: Consistency is Key
Sleep training is a journey, but consistency is essential. Here’s why it’s worth the effort:
Sleep training may take a few weeks, but once your baby learns to sleep independently, the whole family will enjoy better sleep.
Whether you’re using gentle or faster methods, consistency will help your baby adjust and develop healthy sleep habits.
While consistency is key, life happens. Be flexible when needed, but always return to your training method to maintain progress.
Remember, sleep training isn’t about “forcing” your baby to sleep but about helping them learn the skill of self-soothing and independent sleep.
Ready to start sleep training? Try implementing these methods, and don’t forget to track your progress. You’ll see improvement as your baby gains the confidence to sleep independently.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is It Too Late to Sleep Train a 10-Month-Old?
No, 10 months is an ideal time to sleep train. Most babies are developmentally ready to learn independent sleep skills by this age.
How Long Should You Let a 10-Month-Old Cry It Out?
If using the Cry-It-Out method, let your baby cry for a set period (e.g., 10-15 minutes) before offering comfort. Gradually increase the intervals. Always ensure your baby’s basic needs are met before starting.
What is the 5-3-3 Rule for Sleep Training?
The 5-3-3 rule is a guideline for wake windows: a 5-hour wake window in the morning, followed by 3 hours before the afternoon nap, and another 3-hour wake window before bedtime.
What is the Hardest Night of Sleep Training?
The hardest night is often the first or second night, when your baby is adjusting to the new routine. Expect some tears and frustration, but consistency will help your baby learn to self-soothe.
